Thank you for this comment Zihna. Five children and you are waiting for it to be over. A day which should be full of love and happiness — not because it is Mother's Day, but because it should be a celebration of your heartfelt love and devotion.
I understand the need to protect yourself from the pain, year after year. My sincere wish is that you never give up on yourself — and on the wonderful things that living this with dignity and faith can give you.
I have hope this year my oldest daughter may contact me. We have gotten closer since my husband died. I wondered for years what kind of mother I must have been that my kids so completely forget me. I know after I divorced their father 30 years ago he was trying to turn them against me. I refused to play that game. I just kept trying to let them know I loved them and cared about them. Until about 10 years ago. My last Christmas with my previous husband who had dementia. I was barely holding it together. And I didn’t get so much as an email. It kind of broke me. So, I did something that was probably stupid. I sent them an email and said I loved them and and wished them a lovely life. But, they didn’t seem to need me in their lives anymore. Didn’t get one response. So I have just tried to deal with it since then.
Mother’s Day became hard for me. I have 5 children. Many went by without so much as a card or phone call. Now, I kind of just wait for it to be over.
Thank you for this comment Zihna. Five children and you are waiting for it to be over. A day which should be full of love and happiness — not because it is Mother's Day, but because it should be a celebration of your heartfelt love and devotion.
I understand the need to protect yourself from the pain, year after year. My sincere wish is that you never give up on yourself — and on the wonderful things that living this with dignity and faith can give you.
I have hope this year my oldest daughter may contact me. We have gotten closer since my husband died. I wondered for years what kind of mother I must have been that my kids so completely forget me. I know after I divorced their father 30 years ago he was trying to turn them against me. I refused to play that game. I just kept trying to let them know I loved them and cared about them. Until about 10 years ago. My last Christmas with my previous husband who had dementia. I was barely holding it together. And I didn’t get so much as an email. It kind of broke me. So, I did something that was probably stupid. I sent them an email and said I loved them and and wished them a lovely life. But, they didn’t seem to need me in their lives anymore. Didn’t get one response. So I have just tried to deal with it since then.
"You are not less of a mother because she is not with you this weekend."
I appreciate this message.
Thank you.